Frequently Made Excuses 2018-07-04T10:51:10+00:00
If was going to get fixed, I should have done it years ago. 2018-06-26T09:27:25+00:00

I’ve wasted the last 30 years barking up the wrong tree, so why shouldn’t I waste the next 30 barking up the same one?

I haven’t got time. 2018-06-26T09:26:58+00:00

…To make a one hour per fortnight commitment to looking after myself.

I can’t see how it will do any good. 2018-06-26T09:26:32+00:00

…I mean, if I don’t know what the answer’s going to be what’s the point of even asking the question?

I’ve got to 45 without needing it, and everyone knows you can’t teach an old dog new tricks. 2018-06-26T09:26:09+00:00

…Okay, so I learned how to use the Uber App, Facebook, the new blu-ray/DVD player plus how to cook after 20 years of takeaways but that’s different.

What if I discover things about myself I don’t like? 2018-06-26T09:25:41+00:00

…So what if other people have discovered them already, at least I’m in a state of blissful ignorance.

It’s too expensive – why would I pay for something I could do for nothing with a self-help book and a cup of tea? 2018-06-26T09:25:04+00:00

…And I’ll start with the pile that’s been sitting on my shelf for the last 10 years.

There can’t be that much wrong – I hold down a job, my wife hasn’t left, my kids are still talking to me, why would you need to get coaching? 2018-06-26T09:23:51+00:00

…That feeling of boredom, frustration, failure and opportunity passing me by every time I get on the train to work- I’m just making that up.

Coaching, transformational conversations, what is all this flakey nonsense? 2018-06-26T09:22:32+00:00

…God knows how they’ve managed to persuade tight fisted companies to pay for it – coaches are dab hands at pulling the wool over finance directors’ eyes, you’ve got to hand that to them.

Six sessions – that’s what she said I should sign up to – that’s six whole hours over 12 weeks! 2018-06-26T09:21:58+00:00

…It’s the equivalent of 5 minutes a day– I mean, who’s got that sort of time to spare?

I keep getting into the same difficulties, same arguments, same dead ends, it’s impossible that a few hours over a few weeks is going to make a difference! 2018-06-26T09:21:26+00:00

…And on top of that I’ve got too much to lose – like all these difficulties, arguments, dead ends. Where would I be without them?

Working with Penelope has been absolutely brilliant. I was in a complete muddle in February. And even after a couple of sessions I had things well on the way to getting sorted, both emotionally and practically. Now, when I want to write a letter to my ex partner, I always run it past Penelope first. Her background in mediation is really helpful.

Liz

Penelope engaged me in focusing on what issues I could work on and enabled me to choose the ones that linked together for our sessions. She demonstrates her willingness to be alongside a client while keeping her perspective and within her role. She is warm, she has maturity and is interested in her client and wants them to achieve their goals.

Suzanne

My coaching sessions with Penelope have been eye opening. She is incredible at helping to separate the wheat from the chaff. By relentlessly and razor sharply recounting my words, she helps me understand how other people hear my thoughts and consequently helps me to take responsibility in articulating my wants and setting my own goals.

Jan-Willem