What I do 2018-07-06T16:05:43+00:00

Life coaching is about helping people find answers.  Sometimes the questions are obvious; sometimes the work is uncovering the questions first.

I will help you focus on the parts of your life that you might feel dissatisfied with, anxious or upset about, or simply that don’t seem as perfect as their earlier promise. You will be able to identify the behaviours or patterns that don’t serve you and work out how to change them.

Most of our work will look like a conversation, one where you do most of the talking, and where I may sometimes ask some challenging questions.

Coaching is forward looking and works for people who are looking for change, in one form or another.  As a coach, I won’t be advising or offering you solutions. I will be listening hard and reacting to everything you say. I will let you know what your language suggests to me, what patterns I might be noticing, what habits of thought or belief might have gone unchallenged, just in case these observations are useful to you.

You take your car in for a regular service; you go to the dentist for a check up every six months.  How about offering yourself some coaching to fix the exhaust before it falls off, to fill that hole before it starts to hurt?

Relationships are the stuff of life. Relationships with your significant other, your children, your parents, your friends, your siblings, your colleagues, your neighbours and acquaintances. When they go well, life is lovely; when they go wrong, it can turn your world upside down.

I work with individuals and couples, families and groups, two at a time, three at a time, wherever the need is for better communication and understanding.

I work with people wanting to improve their relationships, and couples and individuals wanting to find a way to separate in a way that causes least fallout and stress to themselves and those around them. I also work with people experiencing the pain and difficulty of relationship breakdown, at the point of crisis or sometimes years later.

My long experience in workplace mediation, and as an employment lawyer has convinced me that what holds people back at work, is the same as what holds people back outside work.

Offering regular coaching sessions to employees to help them investigate what is important in their lives – their relationships, their ambition, their fears and anxieties, where they get stuck, where they feel undervalued, what they love and enjoy – is not only a transformational offering in terms of employee well-being, but will pay extraordinary dividends in terms of motivation, productivity, and retention. Happier employees mean happier workplaces means more work done means increased profits.

Give me a call to discuss how this might fit in with your work place.

It’s well known that separation and divorce are up there with life’s most stressful incidents. Even for those who have chosen to split, rather than had the decision thrust upon them, a separation from a relationship entails enormous changes in the way you live, see yourself, and communicate with a person who very often will continue to be influential and important in your life.

When a relationships breaks down, there will be other people to manage too – children, a wider family, colleagues and shared friends; there may well be financial arrangements to work through, often with someone you cannot even talk to without shouting or crying.

I can help you navigate your way through painful and difficult situations, manage and come to terms with sorrow, grief and anger, and provide you with an opportunity outside your lawyer’s office to help you work out what will be best for you and the people you care about. My experience in dispute resolution, my work as a family lawyer, my own experience of the breakdown of a long marriage and my particular interest in this type of coaching gives me a unique set of tools to help you navigate your way through this difficult and testing time.

I’ve had a long career in dispute resolution and mediation, in the community, the workplace, and commercial situations.

I work with individuals and groups to help bring about healthy working environments where disputes are handled in a timely and temperate way rather than fester and waste time in HR resources, absenteeism, poor productivity and failed retention.

I also offer conflict coaching and dispute resolution in the context of family, neighbourhood, charities – any environment where a little extra help with communication and a neutral facilitator may help you to a workable resolution.

Please take a look at my dedicated mediation site for more detailed information.

Penelope’s ability to navigate entrenched and sensitive issues whilst maintaining focus on resolution proved invaluable.

Janet
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WHAT I DO

Mostly, I coach.  This means that we have a conversation where I invite you to explore what is important to you, what values, needs and interests are a priority, what changes you would like to make and how you would like to go about making them.  That’s it in a nutshell.

They way I do it is like this:  I remain on your side, non-judgmentally, listening deeply to what you’re saying as well as to what you’re not saying.  I check where I’m not clear in case you’re not clear either and question, sometimes gently sometimes more forcefully, whether untested and unhelpful beliefs lie behind some of your thought processes and are getting in the way of your goals. It’s that sort of thing. The conversation will look different for each client, obviously – it’s the client’s material that leads the direction  – but some things will remain as standard. Coaching is always a space for you to explore what is important to you, and the focus will be on moving forwards and sorting stuff out.

My long experience in dispute resolution (please see the Dispute Resolution page if you’re interested in a mediation) has gifted me with skills in helping clients navigate difficult conversations, as well as with techniques that invite people to investigate and manage uncomfortable or confrontational situations.

I also offer relationship coaching, with an emphasis on communication, for couples, children and parents, siblings or business partners, helping you navigate your way through situations that merit that extra bit of assistance.

I am equally happy in a business environment as I am in discussing people’s intimate lives. I work with young, old and middle aged; equal opportunities and non-discrimination in all things is a cornerstone of my practice as is an unrelenting commitment to confidentiality.

I have worked as a lawyer and in private enterprise and the public sector, have a Masters in Creative Writing and raised children. These experiences inevitably add knowledge and understanding to much of the work I do. Where necessary, and by agreement, I am happy to move into a mentor role, for example with help in editing a piece of writing, or signposting to agencies or advisors to help with specific situations.

WHAT IT COSTS

The first session is free. We will talk about where you are now, where you’d like to be and how committed you are to getting there. We will discuss how coaching works, how many sessions you’d like, payment terms, and review.  The first conversation is an opportunity to air any anxieties or reservations, ask any questions and decide whether I am the coach for you.

If you decide to go ahead I will send you a contract and invoice; we will fix some dates and off we go.

After that it’s £360 for six one hour sessions individual or £480 for six sessions couple coaching.

Corporate prices by negotiation.

WHERE

I work from my home in St Albans, where I provide a quiet, private environment. I also work through Skype and on the telephone. I am happy to meet in a public space so long as it is relatively quiet. Meetings in cafes and pubs can be just as productive, so long as you are comfortable in the environment. A coaching walk is nice too, if you fancy that.

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